Let’s Talk About Sex Month: I Love Female Orgasm
What Meg Ryan so perfectly (and perhaps enviously?) demonstrates in the timeless film Sleepless in Seattle When Harry Met Sally illustrates perfectly an effect of what many are now calling the “Orgasm Gap“: men are twice as likely to climax as women. The reasons for this are two-fold, according to recent reports, particularly in The Guardian, a) men just don’t pull their weight and b) women don’t know their bodies well enough. “I Love Female Orgasm”, next in the series of Let’s Talk About Sex Month events put on by the Center for Health and Wellness Education, will address both of those issues. But, there is an ulterior motive to the discussion: to get people talking about what the Center’s director, Jyoti Daniere calls “the nitty gritty aspects of sex”. In sex-ed classes all over the country, students learn the disgusting intricacies of the reproductive systems without ever uttering all the real words actually associated with sex. This leaves people (of all ages) with generally confused and uneasy feelings about the subject. Thus, if you want/are willing to talk more straightforwardly about sex (or, if your one who watched Meg Ryan and also said “I’ll have what she’s having”), this event is for you.
WHAT: I Love Female Orgasm
WHEN: Thursday, February 26, 7:30 PM
WHERE: Dana Auditorium
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That scene’s actually from When Harry Met Sally.
Poor guys. They always get the blame for a woman not orgasming.
As the article you linked to says, women don’t know what they want and how they want it, so they don’t know how to express it to their partners. Fine. Understandable. But for women who do? Your orgasm is your responsibility! It’s not the man’s fault God was a poor engineer; He failed to line Adam’s pleasure bits up with Eve’s pleasure bits. Eve needs to learn she has to get in there and do the dirty work herself. Otherwise, he has an experience that it is too much like patting one’s head and rubbing one’s stomach at the same time . . . if you catch my drift.
Sounds like you need to go to the workshop, too, Anon.
I’m serious, Really?. You try thrusting your hips and moving your finger around in a circle. Ain’t easy.
Workshops like these do a disservice to women, especially young women who are just now learning the intricacies of sex. While I agree that it is exceedingly important for women to learn about their bodies and to become comfortable communicating their needs to their partners, men can only do so much. It’s not their fault; it’s just the way anatomy works.
As I see it, women have two options:
1. We can continue to believe that we cannot reach orgasm because our partners are “not pulling their weight.”
OR
2. With some practice, we can start having orgasms NOW by taking matters into our own hands.
I choose the latter. And I have 100% success rate.
It’s a funny old question – why don’t women come as much as men. I believe it’s because both women and men belive that women are supposed to come the way men come, and so women don’t recognize their sexual experiences as valid.
I’ve written two posts about it here, if you’d like to read them:
http://demurelemur.wordpress.com/