What happens when you fall in love with a girl?
And she is your best friend?
And you are also a girl?
And you only like boys?
And you really, truly are
convinced you are straight?
What do you do?
What do you identify as?
Who do you tell?
These questions are among many that I asked myself a few years ago when I realized that I no longer had purely platonic feelings for my best (girl) friend. They are questions that are not unique to my situation. Many women struggle with them as they try to figure out how their sexuality decided to turn its back on its owner, to turn from solid to liquid to gas, to seek out something new.
The characters of Y Tu Mamã También become personal
At the turn of the year I habitually find myself scurrying to find a resolution that, if properly followed, will make me a more wholesome, healthier person. In doing so I end up creating a list of activities and habits I wish to do away with; I decide that the only way to be a better me is if I restrict myself from activities I normally derive pleasure from. Less sugar. Less red meat. Less sitting on my ass.
This year I took a different approach to these lists. I pondered ways in which I, and others with the same goals, can achieve what I want without having to follow the same conventional, boring path. If I want to elevate my heart rate more during the week, who says I need to go to the gym to do so? Unfailingly sex came to my rescue. Who says exercising does not, or cannot happen in the bedroom? Plus, with the winter weather becoming colder and crueler, why schlep to the gym when you can stay in the comfort of your room and still have the company of others. Exercise becomes Sexercise.
As I mentioned in my last post “Lesbihonest: It’s time to acsexsorize!” I am writing this three-part series to offer readers suggestions of how to create a spark within themselves or their relationships. Previously, I shared different toys and foods that can be used as a sexy complement to Friday Fun. This article focuses on how people can make their sex lives more active, healthy, and intriguing. Although sex with one partner naturally has all of these elements, threesomes bring it to a whole different dimension. One more person may not seem significant, but in this case the third person is the charm.
Dip it low, pick it up slow.
I have taken the past month or so off from updating my “Lesbihonest” blog, but during this writing hiatus I have been thinking and talking a lot about sex. Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex. Over the past one and a half months I have overheard many students on this campus exasperatedly proclaim, “I just want to have sex tonight!” or “I am so horny!” or “Where am I supposed to find someone I can just hook up with?” I am still on the quest to figure out how Middlebury can create a culture that is more conducive to a comfortable hook-up scene—where dating becomes more of a norm and going out to breakfast the night after one hot night with a stranger does not instantly imply one wants to be in a relationship. These are challenges I hope to address later, but right now I want to talk about ways in which individuals or couples can spice up their own sex lives. These suggestions do not necessarily require you to go out this winter and stumble aimlessly about on the icy pathways, trying to find a party where another individual, who is equally as sexually charged as you, awaits.
This is going to be a three part series. The first post will look at different toys and products individuals or couples can use in their sex lives, the second will focus on non-traditional forms of sex and the third will discuss ways in which couples can spice up their sex life without spending lots of money.